Better Sex: Using Pornography to Enhance the Sexual Experience

Pornography gets a bad rap, and not without some justification. Yet despite problems with it, pornography in many different forms continues to be enjoyed by men (and women). Since frequent ejaculation is a component of penis health, the masturbatory aid can be seen as conducive to a healthy activity. But it’s not just for solo use; pornography is often used as a way to stimulate better sex for a couple.

It’s not always visual.

When people think of pornography, X-rated videos and pictures are what tend to come to mind. Yet pornography doesn’t have to be relegated strictly to the visual realm. Some couples may find that audio-based porn may be more up their alley.

For example, simply “talking dirty” may stimulate sexual interest in a new way. If a couple tends to use technical terms when referring to their organs or their actions, they may respond positively to getting “down and dirty” with their language during sex.

Role-playing is another option. A couple decides on a sex-based scenario and takes on the guise of characters in that scenario. For example, a man may play a policeman pulling over a woman for speeding. The woman explains the sexual favors she would do to get out of receiving a ticket, and the couple moves forward from there.

Or some couples may simply enjoy having sex while listening to (but not watching) an adult video. The sounds of other couples moaning and groaning may stimulate more than one’s audio senses.

But visual can be good.

Of course, “traditional” pornography is also a worthy option. Assuming that both partners are interested in exploring this together, it still helps to discuss a few things in advance:

– Comfort level. Are both partners equally interested, or is one “pushing” the other? There’s not necessarily anything wrong with asking about it, but partners need to be sensitive and realize that some people simply may not be receptive.

– Genre. A man may be intensely into a pornographic video in which one guy is serviced by a bevy of beautiful women. His mate may also be into this – but then again, she very well may not. It’s a good idea to determine in advance what areas of pornography a couple wants to explore; in general, it’s usually best to start with fairly “straightforward” porn.

– Share. Couples should establish that sharing their thoughts about the porn – whether during or after the viewing – is acceptable and can lead to better sex. For example, a woman may want to point out that the position a couple is using onscreen might be a lot of fun, or a man may want to say that the way the actress is stroking the actor’s penis is exactly the way he likes to be fondled. It’s also okay to continue this conversation when the couple has moved on to engaging in sex themselves. Saying, “Can you enter me the way he did?” or, “Try holding me that way” while in the midst of lovemaking can be valuable.

Experiencing pornography together can lead to better sex for many couples. Of course, a man wants to make sure his penis is in peak condition for the sex that results from this activity, so he needs to regularly apply a top-notch penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). Making sure the crème include L-arginine is another good idea. L-arginine is involved in the production of nitric oxide, which in turn is essential for keeping penile blood vessels open – an important factor in erectile health. Also key: selecting a crème with acetyl L-carnitine. The penis often becomes de-sensitized due to rough handling. Acetyl L-carnitine is neuroprotective and helps to maintain proper penis sensitivity so that the organ experiences all those pleasurable sensations.


Discover the Role of Sex in Marriage

Sex plays a lot of role in marriage and the family; it unites husband and wife, solidifies their love but lack of it can destroy a very promising union. No wonder the Bible says that once a man and a woman marries, they have become one, they are no longer permitted to hide their bodies from each other. Investigation carried out shows that majority of men who commit adultery or go the extra mile of marrying another woman are as a result of sex punishments they receive from their wives. Some men even sleep with their house help or sister-in-laws to get at their wives.

No matter how busy and tired you are, you should not use it as an excuse to deny your husband sex because it is his right. A woman should be ready to satisfy her husband sexually to save her marriage, deliver her husband from adultery, avoid infidelity and prevent sexual diseases.

Sex should not be used as a weapon of punishment to your husband when there are marital problems because this has a way of turning back against you. I have discovered that men love sex as much as they love food and when they are denied of it, can go any length to satisfy themselves and damn the result.

Tips to Keep Your Sex Life Alive.

Sex doesn’t have to get boring in marriage. As the years go by, your sex life should get better. Here are some tips to keep your marriage and sex life fresh.

1. Do not expect your husband to be the only one in your marriage who initiates romance. You both have the responsibility for having an intimate and successful marriage.

2. Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life in a marital relationship, so talk with one another about sex.

3. Share with one another your sexual desires.

4. Talk to one another about your expectations about lovemaking. False or unmet expectations can hurt your marriage.

5. Sexual intimacy is a continuing process of discovery. True intimacy through communication is what makes marriage work.

6. Sex in a long lasting relationship can deepen and become a richer experience. No matter how many times you made love to each other, the wonder and awe of mutual attraction can still be there.

7. When life becomes busy, and schedules are hectic, plan for sexual encounters with one another. Make sex your main priorities.

8. Try to set the mood in advance.

9. If you want to have good sex at night, start the foreplay in the morning.

10. Let your spouse know you care and are thinking about him/her throughout the day by notes, e-mail, photographs, hugs, chats, phone calls etc.


It’s All Porn and Games ‘Til Someone Gets Hurt

An 11 year old kid in Britain recently got caught selling adult DVDs on school grounds (at When I first read this, three thoughts immediately went through my mind, in quick succession. The first thought was, although what the kid did was wrong, did they have to make a federal case out of it? I did some big, regrettable things as an adolescent in school. But I would have been mortified if those things had made the neighborhood gossip ring, much less received national media attention from the likes of the BBC.

My second, and gut-level response was a somewhat typical male, “Boys will be boys.” Then I started wondering: what is this situation trying to tell us? If there ever was a sign that porn was too accessible, especially as far as kids were concerned, this was it.

The reason I say this is because this story (about the kid selling DVDs) somewhat coincided with two other announcements. The first was the revelation – at least on a grander level anyway, I’m sure a select few people had known for a while – that the video game Grand Theft Auto San Andreas contained hidden elements and mini-games of a pornographic nature which could be accessed by obtaining certain modifications on the net ( (I’d tell you the website for the modifications, but I’d actually like you to finish reading this article…:)) This game was hip among teenage boys to begin with. The discovery of hidden porn might push it over the top, even if it’s just by kids who want to know and confirm that the rumors of porn are true.

The second announcement was that adult movie houses in Japan have released or are soon to release porn movies for the PlayStation Portable (PSP) ( It seems that the production of adult movies in the PSP-exclusive Universal Media Disc (UMD) format has not started in the US – yet.

Now I’m not saying that if/when the widespread availability of adult UMDs becomes a reality, these discs will by and large be sold side-by-side with the more mainstream video games. Not even alongside those rated M and above. But there will be acceptions: such as video games being sold in an otherwise adult-themed boutique or shop. And also, you know there will be the occasional unscrupulous store owner who attempts to make the adult discs available to underage gamers who shop in his mainstream gaming store.

Teenagers, by their very nature, are an inquisitive lot and they will do what you allow them to get away with. They often try to grow up way too fast and they are quite curious to know about sex. They’re prone to peer pressure, and for better or worse, they try to fit in or impress their friends or both. They will try to get their hands on the coolest items.

The fact that these items (both the game and the gaming system) are somewhat connected to porn, which at that stage in a teen’s life is a somewhat taboo (read hip and desirable) subject, is only going to make that item more wanted. (I guess in a way then that the producers of such software are marketing geniuses. Although I’d like to think that none of those producers were targeting minors from the start.)

Did the folks over at Rockstar Games honestly think they could make a mainstream video game, M-rated (for mature) though it is (so the producers could claim that they’ve covered their asses), and not have kids get there hands on the game in addition to seeking out codes for that game? My brother, while in his mid-teens, received a copy of Max Payne as a gift (another Rockstar Games production, by the way) – this is a notoriously M-rated game also, but at least it didn’t contain adult material.

Also, I’m an avid video game player in my spare time so I troll gaming boards all the time looking for cheating codes and special “Easter eggs” (gaming extras); and believe me, I’m not the only one looking. I have to question why the security for the gaming code is so lax and hack-prone in the first place.

Listen, we all know that if a kid is determined enough, he will find porn on his own. But we don’t have to make it so accessible and portable. It’s bad enough that porn is now accessible on cell phones. As prevalent and affordable as cell phones are, the average age of kids getting cells now is getting lower and lower. Parents can afford to outfit the entire family (kids included) with cells so everyone can keep in touch.

At least, if you were to whip out a portable dvd player or laptop to view a porn dvd in public, that would arouse some interest (perhaps even from potential thieves…). But viewing porn on your cell, without anyone looking directly over your shoulder (and assuming no one can hear the moans), is no more conspicuous than reading the newspaper.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing inherently illegal in putting out porn discs in game software format or producing adult material in adult games that are explicitly slated for adults only. But software producers should take it under advisement not to make it any easier than it has to be for kids to obtain porn. Especially if said porn is contained in such boast-worthy items as a high-tech cell-phone, the latest hip video game, and a popular gaming console.

If these items were gasoline (and they just might cost less than the latter nowadays), the average underage teen fascination with sex is just the spark that’s needed to make the situation blowup in a content developer’s face.